Photo credit: Taylor Swift Instagram
You’ve likely heard the news by now (and if you haven’t, congrats on not being chronically online): Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are engaged.
After two years of dating, a banner year between Swift’s Eras Tour and Kelce’s Super Bowl win, and the media circus that ensued, the couple is making it official.
I’m not here to pledge my devotion as a Swiftie or argue how Kelce is famous in his own right. I’m here to drop a universal truth: ditching the ego and practicing full and consistent support for your significant other is the key to a thriving partnership—something perfectly exemplified in the Taylor/Travis relationship.
Let’s talk about it.
Taylor & Travis: Why They Work
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Whatever you feel about her music, there’s no denying that Taylor Swift is a powerhouse businesswoman. Her work ethic, talent, and industry savvy allowed her to quickly rise through the ranks to become one of the most influential singer/songwriters of all time.
The flip side of that?
Media scrutiny, public feuds, and, for Swift, more than a few relationships that couldn’t stand up to her fame and ambition.
In fact, it’s rumored that Swift’s intense public life and career aspirations were a primary reason for the dissolution of her six-year relationship with ex-boyfriend Joe Alwyn.
The split from Alwyn made one thing glaringly apparent: Swift requires a relationship that gives her full agency to be the world’s most successful pop star, with all the media attention, grueling days and nights, and time away that requires.
Enter: Travis Kelce.
From the first few months of their courtship, the online discourse centered on one major question: Was Kelce the guy who could not only take Swift’s fame in stride but also champion her greatness?
We now know the answer is a resounding yes. And if there’s any doubt about Kelce’s devotion to his partner, all you need to do is join one of the millions of people who tuned into the Kelce Brothers’ New Heights Podcast interview with Swift to see it on full display.
During the interview, Swift has never looked more natural. Kelce gives her space to talk and expresses genuine interest in her responses. The entire vibe feels relaxed, authentic, and uplifting in a way never seen in Swift’s relationships.
So, why do they work so well together?
Chemistry and attraction play a role. But deeper than that, Swift and Kelce possess the most critical pieces of their relationship puzzle: shared goals, comfort with publicity, and, for Kelce, a willingness to bask in the glow of Swift’s stardom rather than run for the shadows.
Throughout their relationship, Kelce has consistently embraced Swift’s fame and intelligence. A lesser person might balk at playing second fiddle, even as one of the NFL’s greatest tight ends. But to Kelce, this is inconsequential. He accepts that Swift’s fame complements, not competes with, their relationship. And he’s cheering her on the whole way.
Takeaways for the “Normies”
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It’s unlikely you or I will have to worry about the dynamics associated with our partners reaching meteoric fame. But there are many real-life examples of how we’re required to manage each other’s “spotlights” outside of celebrity relationships:
- Career demands or job transitions.
- One partner being the higher earner.
- Adopting new hobbies to get back in touch with a sense of self.
- Taking solo trips.
When big life shifts happen, or your partner needs time for the activities that ground them, or you’re up against a dynamic that has the potential to cause a rift, you have a choice to make.
Do you dig your heels in and position your needs first?
Or do you champion your partner to greatness and allow them to take what they need to reach their version of success, no strings attached?
Especially in modern relationships, where both partners have an opportunity to build fruitful careers regardless of gender, it’s critical to leave outdated social constructs behind in the name of building each other up.
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter who is smarter or more successful; it matters that you show up for each other with love and give one another the space to grow through all stages of your relationship.
If Kelce and Swift can teach us anything, it’s that you can still be “the man” while rooting for your partner, and relationships work best when you trade competition for collaboration.